This “ah-ha” is a concentrated outcome from a Leadership Practitioner™ Learning Circle – a live weekly group learning space where we actively explore how Leadership Practitioners are integrating their learnings in the real contexts of their lives.

The Ah-Ha

In a recent Learning Circle, we explored a potentially heated conversation between two people. One was describing a situation where everything to her seemed set in stone and that changing how things were seemed insurmountable. The other found this mindset unimaginable. 

The ah-ha that we came to was: Everybody has their own perspectives. We don’t have to agree with those perspectives. We’re entitled to our own. What matters is our intention in the moment.

If our intention is to change someone’s mind, our behaviour might come across as cold, unempathetic, or even aggressive. If it is to help someone consider a perspective different from their own, our behaviour would more likely come across as warm and empathetic, thereby creating the context for them to contemplate the different perspective.

So when we feel ourselves wanting to or trying to change others’ perspectives (which rarely works anyway), we can, instead, do our best to create the conditions where their perspectives could change.

Reflection questions

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We’d love to hear your thoughts and reflections about this ah-ha and invite you to join us in the Leadership Practitioner Connection.